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my college tutor is making me feel very uncomfortable. I told her in august i didn't want to come back to college, and she begged me to rethink. i tried to go to college and had a panic attack. I've since become far too busy at the shop to even think about college.

however, i keep getting invoices, and emails from her asking me to keep in touch if i'm planning to continue on the course. i keep telling her i'm not. I kept getting invoices, so i rang them and said i wasn't paying as i hadn't been into college this year.

so last week she phoned me and asked me to kick up a fuss with the admissions department about my fees, because she wants me to finish the course, even though i don't want to pay for it. she needs to keep bums on seats or the course won't be continued next year.

it turns out she's been marking me as 'authorised abscence' since september, telling people i'm not able to go in because IAN is ill. this means i'm still technically going to have to pay for the course as they think i've been there even though i haven't. she also told me that all this is off the record and i shouldn't tell anyone. if i do tell anyone, she'll know it's me who's told them as she told me to keep it to myself.

ian's benefits don't qualify me for free tuition, and my self-employment doesn't either. also, i'm not getting any teaching, so why should i pay just because she's lied?

don't get me wrong - i appreciate the help they gave me last year with my confidence, and i had a great year (until the end) and got a good A level result. but they got paid for that year because i was on Employment Support allowance, so I've not got any education for free. i also don't really need this access qualification - i'm self-employed, and already have a degree.

I don't feel right lying just so the course doesn't get finished.

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vampy
Jan. 17th, 2011 03:45 pm (UTC)
Wow she's shady and unfair for putting that on you like that. It's not down to you to make sure a course continues, while your attendance may keep it going for another year it's not up to you to keep validating this lie. Furthermore, why should you? You aren't gaining anything from this [although that isn't the point, I know, but you're not recieving any teaching] and she shouldn't be using you or Ian like that. It's wrong! AND you'll be expected to pay because she's been a liar!

While you are thankful for the course last year and what they did for you..it doesn't mean you are liable to be used like that and have to pay for a course you're not attending. If it was me..I'd feel awful about it since they were good to you the first year, but I would have to be upfront and tell someone that you've not been attending and that your tutor got the wrong end of the stick. You'd have to be honest about the situation or you'd end up having to pay for the course and that's not fair on you at all.
cdaae
Jan. 17th, 2011 03:48 pm (UTC)
Whoah, she is WAY out of line.

There is no fricking way you should be paying those fees.

If she doesn't want to get in trouble for lying, she should pay the fees herself. It is completely outrageous of her to put you in this position.

If you don't want to dump her completely in it by telling them she told you she'd lied, I'd suggest telling them very firmly that you told her you weren't coming back, and anything she might have written contrary to that must have been a case of her misunderstanding you. But no fricking WAY should you pay the fees.

This seriously pisses me off.
vampy
Jan. 17th, 2011 03:51 pm (UTC)
If she doesn't want to get in trouble for lying, she should pay the fees herself.

THIS. If she is so keen to keep up this lie and basically blackmail you, then she should pay the tuition fees, not you.
cabbagemedley
Jan. 17th, 2011 03:53 pm (UTC)
That's fucking outrageous!
cdaae
Jan. 17th, 2011 04:06 pm (UTC)
OMG your icon is so cute I want to kiss it.
tillymint
Jan. 17th, 2011 03:58 pm (UTC)
Woah, this is inappropriate in so many ways. Write a letter to admissions teling them you've already told your tutor numeroud timed that you will not be continuing the course, so please stop sending invoices. You don't need to mention the additional information unless they push it. At which point you shouldn't worry about dropping her in it - she's the one who has commited fraud, not you.
redfi
Jan. 17th, 2011 04:27 pm (UTC)
It's fraud chicken. You need to either go and see the bursar or someone at college and tell them whats gone on. Any repercussions she suffers will be entirely down to herself. You've been straight with her, she has been straight neither with you, or the college. It needs to stop.
cha_mel_eon
Jan. 17th, 2011 04:49 pm (UTC)
I agree with what the others have said, it's her problem, not yours.
pink_weasel
Jan. 17th, 2011 05:30 pm (UTC)
I agree with everyone else. Write a very short clear letter to college stating that you told the tutor you were not coming back and did not enrole for this accademic year.

This is not your problem or fault and you shouldn't have to deal with this, so nip it firmly in the bud.

The fact that you benefited from the course last year does not obligate you to go along with this now.

*hugs*
sullen_hearts
Jan. 17th, 2011 06:01 pm (UTC)
Yep, fraud. What a horrible person!
lobsterbelle
Jan. 18th, 2011 07:49 am (UTC)
Wow, that's pretty uncool. She shouldn't have done that.
bonjourkitteh
Jan. 19th, 2011 04:29 pm (UTC)
That's absolutely awful! She's clearly trying to take advantage of you for her own good.

Unfortunately in situations like this, you have to think of yourself and do what is right. If you haven't been attending the college course you shouldn't have to pay for it. If she has been lieing to the finance department about your attendance, that's her problem to sort!

It's not fair for you to be made to feel guilty for her mistake. If you do not wish to attend the course anymore, that is purely your own personal choice and she should accept that.

It seems she's trying to guilt trip you into attending/paying by saying the course will stop if you don't attend - what a load of rubbish! It's down to her to recruit students to keep the course alive, not down to a single persons attendance.

If I were you, I would contact the college direct and make a complaint - she could be doing the same thing to a number of other students that feel too guilty to stand up for themselves!!
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