April 6th, 2010

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Been to the museum today making Easter bonnets. Surprisingly the boys who came in weren't that keen on making a hat. Except for one spectacularly camp 10 year old boy cutting out dinosaurs from felt to stick on it, and then strutting around in his bonnet. I wish I was allowed to photograph the children, but we're not even allowed to let their parents take photos.

Tomorrow I'm going to see Tanya. I'm not meant to say anything, but her bloke has split up with her. He was being an arse, so she asked him what was wrong, and he told her he didn't love her any more and it was over.  He wants them to carry on living together until the house is sold, even though they've had their house on the market for 2 years already. She wants him to go and live at his parents' vacant house for a couple of weeks to give her some space. The reason I'm not meant to say anything is because he doesn't want to tell people they've split up - she only told me because we were all meant to be going out for a meal on Sunday, and he thinks we should still all go and pretend nothing's happened, but she knows I would see she's upset and ask her what's wrong (she's got post natal depression as well).

What gets me is that he doesn't understand why she's so upset. If she gets angry or cries, he just says 'and this is why I don't want to be with you any more, you're unreasonable.' She keeps trying to point out that he's the one who did the splitting up, it wasn't mutual, and while they'll have to be civil in the future for their son, at the minute she doesn't want him anywhere near her because she'll think there's a chance they'll get back together. He thinks this is childish.

Trouble is, we were his friend first, so I'm really trying not to take sides. however, he's just being such an absolute cunt that I don't think I should personally be allowed near him, because I find it very hard not to say these things out loud. Normally, I'd tell people honestly (I told Esther I thought she was being unfair to Ash when she split up with him, and she could take it) but he's just not the type to take criticism or advice from anyone. We've had arm wrestles in the past, and apparently I once sat on him when he was being a twat.

Anyway, I just needed to get that out somewhere with no chance of it getting back to either of them.

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I haven't been keeping up with my friends list again, so I culled it. I ALWAYS end up taking someone off who gets offended no matter how I do it. This time, I'm just going to say that I've only deleted what I think are dead journals. If I've taken you off and you're wondering why, ask me, cause I guarantee it's because I didn't recognise your name because you've changed it and I'M OLD AND CAN'T TAKE CHANGE